Transforming negative emotions is a key to success in life.
How many times have you let past negative emotions ruin your day by pulling you off track?
Do you let one bad moment dictate the outcome of your day, or are you able to turn a bad day into a great day? Imagine how your life look if you learned the art of transforming negative emotions into positive ones? Furthermore, just imagine what would change were you to manage your emotions before they took control?
Humans have an emotional brain as well as a logical brain, which is part of the problem. Humans, being creatures of habit, is a reason you repeat past patterns and behaviours. The meanings you place on life’s events result from you being a meaning-making creature. Consequently, you put meanings on life’s events according to your past experiences, beliefs and perceptions. As a result, your interpretations of these self-imposed meanings, lead you to make sense of life’s experiences.
Humans are meaning-making creatures
The meanings you put on events, past experiences, disappointments, fears, anger, moments of jubilation, successes and achievements create neural pathways. These pathways are like records that have mind-stories etched into the grooves. They will be replayed whenever you encounter a similar situation. Hence, this is why, without realising, you may spiral into a negative emotional state. Similarly, a good day can suddenly turn into a bad one.
Take the example of a “fear of authoritative figures”. Perhaps in your past, your teacher or headmaster looked at you sternly and reacted harshly. You felt inadequate and fearful.
Later in your working life, your boss acts in similar ways, causing you to instantly recall those past emotions. Consequently, you react emotionally before your rational or logical brain tells you this is no longer appropriate.
Transforming Negative Emotions The Simple Way
1. Practice becoming aware of your thinking. Your thoughts, when repeated (and believe me most of them are repeated), become habits. As habits are run in your subconscious mind you are often unaware of the unhelpful and negative stories you tell yourself. Practice observing your thoughts and make a conscious effort to change them. Remember your thoughts create the major story you tell yourself, and you can change your story.
Just like a scriptwriter creates a movie, you have the power to change your script, your story.
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2. Next, practice becoming aware of your feelings. We are fundamentally driven by how we feel. If you have negative stories going on in your head, chemicals are created that produce ‘negative’ feelings. These both impact your behaviours. Practice focusing on what is good in your life. If it helps, write a list of happy moments in a book. Each day think of a happy memory and really connect with the feeling you recall from this time.
“Know that without awareness, you cannot change anything. Many people live in a haze of unawareness as their unconscious self runs their lives.” – Mandy Napier
3. Start imagining you are detached from yourself as if looking down at yourself from above. Observe what is going on with no judgment. Just watch yourself as if you were merely a witness to the events. Practice being aware of what you are doing, thinking and feeling, and the easier it becomes to steer the course of your life. Ultimately you will have the power to change the way you feel and develop the skill of transforming negative emotions into something more positive.
Make a habit of being grateful for what you have rather than focusing on what you don’t have
When you make a habit of focusing on the good in your life or connect with a past happy memory, you start to create a more conducive, positive inner state. This helps create a layer of insulation for your life and future events. Most importantly, you are not your thoughts or your feelings – you are more.
Neuroscience shows that we live in a holographic universe where everything is connected and affected by everything else. So, if a part of you created the emotion, a part of you can dis-create it and then, change it. Furthermore, when you observe an emotion rather than fuel it with a story, you can transform the negative energy into a lighter more positive energy.
In conclusion, you can learn the art of transforming negative emotions into something more resourceful.
Taking charge of your emotional and mental state and of course, looking after your physical body are key elements to living a happier, more fulfilled purposeful life. Furthermore, they are key ingredients in creating a Mindset for Success. And a Mindset for Success is equivalent to what Carol Dweck has termed, a Growth Mindset, in her book called Mindset.
What I do?
My work focuses on helping people become aware of their feelings, thoughts, behaviours and strategies they run. More importantly, I help them discard the unwanted patterns, equipping them with powerful mind tools and techniques. This is the key to mindset mastery, emotional mastery and a more conscious and fulfilled life.
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