There are many poor behaviours, from throwing a tantrum, queue barging and ducking into a parking space when you know perfectly well that someone was there first. Furthermore, in addition to these type of external behaviours, there are internal ones that come at an even higher yet hidden cost to success. Moreover, when you uncover and cease these, I guarantee you will save thousands of dollars. Plus you will feel more satisfied, productive, and focused. An additional benefit is you will improve your wellbeing as your stress, anxiety or frustration levels decrease. So, let’s dive into the following seven poor behaviours to avoid at all cost.
1. Justifying your substandard actionsClick To Tweet
When you justify why you did something, you are really making an excuse for your poor behaviour. Do this often enough and it soon becomes a habit. Furthermore, as habits are unconscious it sort of gets attached to your identity and you become someone who always has an answer for why things didn’t work out as expected. Ultimately, this poor behaviour will stifle your results and prevent you from growing. Finally, it erodes self-worth, authenticity and confidence. To check whether this is one your poor behaviours, consider the following:
“How you do one thing is how you do everything.”
Check this by asking yourself, ‘where else in my life do I justify my poor actions or behaviours?’ Be honest with yourself. You don’t have to admit it to anyone else. If you feel your energy contract or if you go ‘ouch,’ you know there are some patterns to address. Our poor behaviours tend to creep in and grow. Unless we stop and reflect it is hard to see ourselves from a growth and improvement perspective. Take responsibility and own up when your performance wasn’t the best. Moreover, don’t take it personally, forgive yourself and choose to learn. Review what happened and make a commitment to change and improve this behaviour and develop a champion mindset.
2. Procrastination – one of the deadliest of the poor behaviours
Procrastinating is a huge killer of time and energy-wasting activity. Around 80% of people admit to doing this, and some, are serial procrastinators. The thing is when you procrastinate you aren’t usually doing nothing. You are merely focusing on less important tasks, ones that feel easy or bring you instant pleasure. Furthermore, it then develops into one of the seven deadly poor behaviours and finally a poor habit. Moreover, it erodes a core and critical skill that we all need to develop which is consistency. So, decide now to work on banishing your tendency to procrastinate today. Learn to prioritise your work. This can include delegating or ditching things that are not truly important. When you do I guarantee your results will skyrocket as you do the things you know you should even though you don’t feel like it. Moreover, you will become the sort of person who takes action.
3. Negative Self Talk“The mind is everything. What you think, you become,” Buddha Click To Tweet
Everything you have created in your life began with a thought. Furthermore, you become what you think about most of the time. If you constantly judge yourself, berate yourself, blame, complain or shame, you are keeping yourself from your greatest success. Your thoughts become habitual just like your physical behaviours. Moreover, negative thinking is one of the worst poor behaviours and habit of thought that requires changing. Make a decision right now to talk kindly to yourself and treat yourself as you would your own best friend. Next, guard the words that come out of your mouth and curiously observe them.
If you hear yourself talking about what you don’t want, what went wrong or complaining, simply stop it. I guarantee changing this behaviour has the potential to transform your life. I have countless stories of clients who have done exactly this. While you don’t have to try to be positive all the time, which is not realistic or possible, you can at least give away any tendencies to be a negative Nellie. Furthermore, you are developing and building a positive mindset. And a positive mindset leads to a mindset for success.
4. Blaming others
When you blame others or anything outside yourself for your results you are avoiding taking full responsibility for your life. This leads to shame, guilt, anxiety, frustration and anger. Moreover, it creates a pattern of avoiding responsibility which is not only one of the seven poor behaviours, it becomes a lens you operate life through. When you avoid responsibility you will never fulfil your potential. It simply isn’t possible. Therefore, by accepting responsibility for your current situation, you become empowered to think and act in better ways. Furthermore, your results and life will change for the better.When you avoid responsibility you will never fulfil your potential. Click To Tweet
5. People Pleasing
When you try to please other people consistently, you are not living your life authentically on your terms. You are living by other people’s values or beliefs rather than what is important to you. The chances are you learnt these people-pleasing poor behaviours when you were young trying to gain love in some manner. Furthermore, as it has become part of your identity you may be totally unaware of this. Moreover, even if you are, chances are you don’t know how to shift it. Practice the art of saying no. If you find it hard, mentally rehearse it until it feels more comfortable. Because this pattern is often deeply hard-wired into you, you may need to seek a coach or professional to help you.
6. Trying to be perfect
Trying to be perfect usually stems from not being good enough and low self-worth. In addition, when you strive for perfection constantly, you create inner turmoil, conflict and stress. Over time, it can lead to health problems, constant anxiety and panic attacks. I have worked with many clients who have ingrained patterns of ‘perfectionism.’ The great news is, it can be changed! I have helped many people overcome this, the anxiety they live with and even panic attacks. The first step is to accept yourself for not being perfect, and appreciate you are human. Congratulate yourself for taking action, because action beats paralysis any day. The only exception to this is if you are training for the Olympics in a sport such as diving. In such instances, the focus is on striving for a perfect ten! And of course, every situation has exceptions!
7. The poor behaviours of soothing your emotions with food or other substances
Other learned and deeply ingrained poor behaviours include bingeing with food or drink. Many of them stem from a basic need to fill a void inside. Often, from a lack of feeling loved in a moment in your past that has led to a poor sense of self-worth or masking a past painful event. Moreover, they become hard to break habits. Decide to make this year the year you sort out your poor behaviours and emotional eating habits. Most of all, commit to creating a plan that includes small steps that leads to your end goal. The key ingredient in all of this is consistency. Finally, be brave and find the courage to seek help if you cannot do it on your own, because the reality is, most people can’t.
Do you have poor behaviours?
In conclusion, the better your behaviours the happier and healthier you will be. However, changing behaviours and creating new habits takes time and consistency. And consistency is one competency that humans tend to have a gold medal in failing in! However, when you start to take small steps and build your muscle of consistency, I guarantee the effects will positively ripple out into every area of your life.
If you need some help getting started, grab a copy of my book, Creating Healthy Life Habits.
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