TOTAL LIFE TRANSFORMATION – WORDS CANNOT EXPRESS HOW MUCH MANDY HAS HELPED ME
When my girlfriend told me she had gone to Mandy 5 years ago to give up smoking and hadn’t touched a cigarette since I couldn’t wait to get Mandy’s details. I was going through a very hard time, depressed and struggling to cope. I often wondered if life was worth living. I was smoking 20 plus cigarettes a day, drinking heavily at night and then trying to look after my 2 boys and my sick mum. I needed help to change my habits to cope and to build my self-confidence so I could focus on a future.
When I met Mandy she provided such a safe nurturing place, she was compassionate and understanding, I felt at ease. This was something that I desperately needed while things were so hard in my life. I felt a great sense of relief, I knew Mandy could help me and my journey had started.
During the first few sessions, Mandy concentrated firstly on building my confidence and self-worth. I learnt that hating myself was ruining my life and alienating me from those who loved me. I was so grateful to have had an empathetic and educated person helping me to better understand my thoughts and feelings.
After only a couple of sessions, I started to feel better as though some weight had been lifted off my shoulders. Mandy then concentrated on building a future focus for me. This seemed quite impossible to me. Ten years ago I had a future mapped out and clear goals established but I lost all that when my husband died, so now it seemed quite daunting. Did I really have to think about the future and set goals! For so long I just put this into the too hard basket.
Mandy was so patient, supportive and encouraging. After a few attempts, I was able to write one page about how I would like to see myself in 12 months time if all the goals I set for the year had been achieved. I wrote about being a non-smoker, being in the right emotional space to meet my future partner, being fit. Totally ambitious and unattainable I thought.
Mandy set about providing the methodologies and tools she thought I required to try and achieve these goals, I didn’t want to feel unhappy anymore, I wanted to change. So without any pressure, Mandy suggested we pick a date in the future when it would be a good time to try and stop smoking. I felt sceptical, worried and nervous about whether I could do it, and even a bit scared of how Mandy went about achieving this.
The journey leading up to this date was fulfilling, rewarding and encouraging, Mandy worked on my self-esteem, confidence, my thoughts and feelings and coping mechanism.
This date came and went and now its 6 months later and I still haven’t had a cigarette, I can’t even imagine picking up a smoke now and going back to the person and lifestyle I had before.
There are no words to express my gratitude to Mandy. My life has changed incredibly, I no longer spend hours smoking and drinking on my deck, I no longer carry around the self-hate. My days are fulfilling, I have the energy and motivation to get things done, enjoy sport and I look better. My skin is glowing and my inner happiness shines through. I still have bad days like everyone but I accept these as part of life. Mandy has taught me a wealth of information to help me better cope and to be the best person I can be…ultimately to be happy.
Thank you, Mandy, for helping me in so many ways. (If you would like to talk to me or ask me any questions, I am happy to do so. I honour my privacy being a private person, so please contact Mandy who will connect you with me!)