Public Talk on Seven Steps to Happiness
I just wanted to say thank you for your talk last night – I am totally familiar with most of the things you talked about, but like you said, it takes 30 days for a new habit to form, so hearing these things again & again in different ways helps the message get through. It amazes me how we can have such differing beliefs within ourselves. You mentioned an almost diagnosis of Rheumatoid Arthritis – that was my diagnosis 4 & 1/2 years ago. I was thrown into a world of fear but had read enough amazing stories of people overcoming terminal cancer, learning to walk despite all possibilities being against that etc, so just had this deep belief that I could heal from RA too. 2 years of fighting took me into a much darker place, but eventually I discovered making RA a friend rather than my enemy might help. After all there are never any survivors in a war, only casualties. It worked – took another couple of years of deep emotional work, dietary changes & hitting rock bottom, and although my physical & mental health deteriorated, I felt spiritually I was growing & this was my journey. I recently had a few issues return around the RA, so of course old fears resurface. Another learning curve. I gave up a job I hated earlier this year (& allowed myself to be treated disrespectfully in) & am slowly building my Reflexology practice. Interestingly this is where my differing beliefs come in. I achieved against all the odds, information & advice to the contrary, a successful outcome of aggressive RA where no drugs would offer help & yet struggle to feel I could succeed as highly successful Reflexologist despite knowing how much difference the treatments make to the clients I see! Those damned mind games! Your talk could not have been timed more beneficially for me. I daily mentor & tell others to recognise how much they have achieved rather than what they haven’t, through the support group I now run for people with RA. I just forget to listen to my own advice. My goal is to change the way people think about chronic illness & disease, particularly those with no cure. I have done this myself & believe many others can too. The support group offers a way for me to help with this.
So thank you so much for offering your time so generously. I am sure it makes your heart sing knowing that you make a difference. I know mine sings daily when someone in the group tells me my comments have given them hope – I have achieved an awful lot, your talk reminded me of this. Thank you & bless you.