Stuck and Self-Sabotaging to Soaring Success
Before I worked with Mandy I had a successful 20 year career in the finance industry. However, I had just resigned from my 11th job in 10 years. I had been falling into the same self sabotage patterns at work and then I would leave. The most recent role lasted three months.
This big cloud of unhappiness kept following me. I was having arguments with myself and I felt terrible all the time. It started impacting my family life. I was really angry, emotional and getting into fights with my wife and my son.
I thought that there was something wrong with me. The voices in my head were so strong. I lost a lot of confidence and felt I wasn’t good enough or worthy enough. That was really hard for me personally and professionally. When I reached out to Mandy I thought I was just looking for help seeking a change of career. Little did I realise the work we we were going to do was going to totally transform my life for the better.
Mandy was able to straight away identify the problems and put them in language I could understand. I knew that she would be able to put me on the right path.
One of the biggest game changers was my inner voices. I’m a totally different person now. I remember one day when I didn’t have any arguments in my head all day. It was just an amazing feeling to be clear. And the relationship with my son and my wife is a lot stronger.
It transformed my training too. Previously, in a training session, when it got tough I found it easy to back off or quit. Now with the tools and strategies you taught me I am able to keep a clear mind and focussed when the session gets harder. I am able to stay in the moment and push through those hard decisions. It’s really helped me go to the next level both in mental strength and with skills to stay focused.
My advice to you is this:
1) You can control the voices in your head. The hardest thing you’re going to have to do is have those hard conversations with yourself. Until you face the things that you don’t like, you are not going to make those advances. I had to go deep and discover some home truths about things I didn’t like about myself. I had to identify them to be able to correct them.
2) Don’t be afraid. Don’t think about the cost or the time that it’s going to take. At the end of the day, there’s nothing more important than you. If you’re unhappy for the rest of your life and you could go back and say, “If I would have done something 15, or 20 years ago..” Now is the point in time and now’s the time to work on me.
I look back now and I wish I would have done this 10 years ago. I wasted 10 years of my career bouncing from job to job purely because I didn’t understand that I was doing the wrong type of job for my personality and values. Thank you Mandy.
Customer Service Officer and Ironman.