Have you ever wondered what the secrets to achieving the success you desire are? Maybe you have watched those wonderful rags to riches stories, or attended a course or seminar? Or, perhaps you have read one of the numerous books on the topic, ‘How to change your life in thirty days,’ ‘Reinventing your life, or ‘Ten things you can do to change your life in ten days?’ While they all have great knowledge, insights and wisdom, why then, are so many people still looking for answers and remain stuck? I will share what I believe is a key secret that will help you change your results and ultimately, change your life.
To begin, let’s go back in time and transport ourselves to India. More than 2,500 year ago in India, Buddhism was founded by Siddhartha Gautama (“the Buddha”). One of the most well known quotes is:
“The mind is everything. What you think, you become.” Buddha
Your thoughts create your reality and sculpt the person you become
Yes, your thoughts shape your future and create your identity. When you have the same thoughts over time they become habits. Habits are run outside your conscious mind, in your subconscious mind, which means you are not aware of them. Furthermore, as you operate your life by habit most of the time, you aren’t aware of many of your thoughts. As you may not have filtered them in the beginning, many of them may not be relevant, helpful or true today.
Much of what we think today is shaped from past experiences. Our currents results are often a reflection of past choices. Moreover, if we want different results, we must make new choices. However, this is where most people fall down. Old patterns and memories run in the background, often, unintentionally sabotage success. Furthermore as our beliefs and habits are stored in the subconscious mind, until we become aware of them it is hard to change your life.
Your brain has to predict in advance the sensory input it receives and make sense of it
You have an incredibly powerful processing organ in your body, your brain. Your brain sorts and makes sense of the world and all the millions of sensory inputs all around. The objects you see, sounds you hear, flowers you smell, flavours you taste and the inner feelings of aches and pains and effects of an experience.
Your brain therefore has an an enormous and constantly changing puzzle to solve. To manage this puzzle, it creates concepts which allow us to make sense of the world. When are are kids we learn what a dog, cat or chair is. What chocolate tastes like and how floor polish is not for eating. Without these reference points everything would be a blur, like a bunch of pixels that make up a TV picture and we couldn’t possibly learn or grow.Your brain has to sift through millions bit of information every second and sort it so we can attribute meaning to experiences Click To Tweet
Your memories are a reference point for new experiences
Now, here is where it gets interesting. Your brains job is to predict all this input before is arrives and fill in the missing details so you can make meaning out of the world. It sorts the input into concepts and stores them as memories. This is an important point. Your memories become a reference point for new sensory inputs and experiences. Ultimately, the meaning you put on the experience creates a baseline for future experiences
As Lisa Feldman Barrett, PhD, a distinguished University Professor in her book, ‘How Emotions are Made’ – The Secret Life of the Brain, says:
“Because they are so vivid and immediate you experience the world as it is when you actually experience a world of your own construction. Much of what you experience as the outside world begins in your head.”
Let’s look at an example. A client came to see me as she was frustrated with her current income ceiling. She could not list or sell a house above a million dollars. As we talked, she admitted to feelings of not good enough and not worthy of great success. These beliefs were ‘implanted’ when she was young. However they were still being played out in her life today, evidence showing in her current results.
When you shift the meaning of an experience you can change your life.
In our coaching we explored different experiences and briefly delved back to her childhood. Here she recalled the frequent words of her father. “We are a poor working class family who have to work hard and will never be wealthy.” Other statements were added to this, such as, “You are from a poor family so you will never be rich.” Furthermore, any time she failed or felt she had failed, it made the belief stronger. It became established as a habitual thought and belief.
Luckily, I helped her release the old beliefs, establish new neural pathways and install a new belief to help her create a different future. Repeating and connecting with the belief consistently is an important key for creating new neural pathways. In a short time frame she sold a million dollar house and has sold many more since then. Today she continues to easily sell houses worth over a million dollars. The new belief has now become her new normal. Ultimately this shift was the catalyst for new opportunities, bigger goals and achieving financial freedom faster.
So, the secret tip for you? Question your reality. Become curious, an essential ingredient of a high performing mindset. Ask yourself better questions and push your mind beyond its current thinking. Question all your thoughts to create new pathways. With this comes possibilities and experiences which gives your brain new data to memorise and leverage off.
Here are six question to help you change your life:
- What would happen if this wasn’t true?
- Can I find two other meanings for this experience?
- If I didn’t feel/think like this, what could I think/ feel instead?
- And what action could I take if there were no limits?
- What is it I really want?
- Could I view this situation from another perspective?
To sum up, if you would like to get new or better results, the key is to adopt a mindset of curiosity. From here you can change your old memories, change the meaning and create new neural pathways. These ultimately lead to new habits. Habits of thought, feeling and behaviour. Put all this together and possibilities and opportunities that were once not there become visible. This is the key to change your life. Furthermore, to fulfil your potential and become your very best self!
About the Author
Mandy Napier is a Global High Performance Mindset Coach who is dedicated to supporting high achievers fulfil their potential and achieve extraordinary results professionally and personally. Transformations are the norm, and results guaranteed.
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