Success Habits for 2018
So its that time of year when you, just like millions of others, have set your New Year’s Resolutions, right? You’ve started and had every intention that this year you will achieve ______(fill in the blank here).
Well, the reality is, 92% of New Year Resolutions fail, and only one in nine people achieve their goals. So, rather than following the path of insanity (doing the same thing and expecting a different result,) perhaps it’s time to do things differently, to create different success habits?
See, the problem is, the very thing that makes humans shine from other species, – our amazing brain, is the very reason that we so often struggle with our version of success and creating success habits.
One of the main reasons is that we are hard-wired to be kept safe, so our brain instinctively searches for danger, and whatever it perceives as dangerous to our current comfortable and safe self, triggers alarm signals, that ultimately increases our chances of failure. What this means is, when you set your lofty New Year’s Resolutions, you are secretly setting yourself up for failure!
The key is to avoid being one of the 92%. I know exactly how to do this, so below, I will share a few of the success habits that ultra-successful people already know.
7 Success Habits
1. Don’t set New Year’s Resolutions. Unless you are a high achiever or want your goal more than anything else in the world…. (yes, I set high standards for myself, yet I still don’t set New Year’s Resolutions as I too have failed in the past,) you are likely to fail. Remember, only 8% achieve. Instead, give yourself some New Year Gifts. The very word gifts, rather than resolutions, has an entirely different feel to it. Try it out by saying these words out loud, and notice how they feel different. For your gift, consider what you really want and what the big picture benefit is. Imagine this being the best gift you could ever give yourself, and wrap it up beautifully. What would it be?
If you want to lose 10 kilos and give up junk food, give yourself the gift of focusing on healthy food choices. If you want to get fit and lean, give yourself the gift of embracing and loving exercise. Got it? Great. Looking at what you want from a new perspective, shifts your entire focus, especially your inner focus, so your subconscious and conscious minds are more aligned and like a radar, will point in the direction of what you want, rather than away from all those thoughts and scenes of what you don’t want, or what you are giving up to get there.
2. Make the unfamiliar familiar.
The second of the seven success habits is to take time to visualise, mentally rehearse yourself as the new you, whether it’s 10 kilos lighter or 25% fitter, or in your new job or career. Because you have your own innate mechanism rather like a thermostat that keeps you at or close to your current life circumstances, unless you imagine yourself differently, making the unfamiliar familiar to your powerful hidden mind, your thermostat will do whatever it can to pull you back to your current setting. The end result, failure to achieve the goal. (Think lottery winners – around 95% of people who win the lotto lose it all within a year.)
Make the familiar unfamiliar and the unfamiliar familiar
3. Make the familiar unfamiliar.
The polar opposite of the above is to make the familiar unfamiliar. Because you are hard-wired to be kept safe, a key to achieve lasting change is to break your familiar routines and habits. This doesn’t have to be changing your entire exercise or eating regime to start with, (this would just freak you out right away), start with simple things like cleaning your teeth with your left hand instead of your right, or drinking a glass of water first thing in the morning rather than downing your usual caffeine hit. Small changes break your habitual circuits and stimulate your brain to create new ones, which builds your belief that you can change. Fuel for your future successes and one of the most vital success habits to embrace.
Stop making excuses
4.. Change Your Story and Stop making excuses. Stop giving yourself reasons as to why you have or have not done something. The amount of energy and hours humans spend justifying to themselves why they did something or not creates paralysis by analysis, stress, feelings of inadequacy, and more. Check-in and listen to what you tell yourself about what is required to achieve your goals. Where is your focus? Do you tell yourself how hard it is, how you don’t feel like it or how you can’t fit it into your busy lif? Decide now to focus on the positives and all the ways you will and can make time and enjoy the new you. If you slip up, review and course correct. Don’t let a slip up define your story and cause you to fail.
5. Stop comparing yourself to others. The fourth of the success habits. We are born to achieve and grow, and our brains love to compare, so while it can be helpful to emulate successful people, follow them on Social Media or read their biographies, most people don’t do this. Instead, they read on Social Media about what everyone else is doing and compare themselves to their lives. This just breeds insecurity, anxiety, diminishes self-worth and creates procrastination and fuels fear. You are unique. There is only one of you, as Dr. Seuss says, and there will always be someone who is better, richer, smarter or happier (supposedly?) than you. Go for gold and start to like, appreciate and love yourself fully.
Small Steps Create Great Results
6.Take small steps. If you truly want to be successful this year, taking smaller steps over a longer time frame is one of the key success habits. Think compound interest. Apply this to your life, your gifts to self and business goals. Just like the saying ‘a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step,’ embrace this philosophy and make it your daily mantra. Sprinkle in some consistency, and I guarantee your results will exceed previous attempts. Starting small ensures your inner thermostat doesn’t try to pull you back to your current identity and sabotage your best laid plans.
7. Unplug from your phones and social media. The seventh of the success habits. I could tell you so many reasons why, but we were born to move, connect with nature, socialise and connect with real people, not hide behind an illusionary false veil of friends, connection or make-believe. Get away from the glory you see in a momentary snapshot on the ‘wall’ of Social Media and get out there and live your own story. Instead of FOMO (fear of missing out) embrace UPALL (unplug and live life). Unplugging and focusing on the simple things in life will help you be more aware and this is a key to creating a future by design rather than one by default.
We have an entire younger generation where anxiety, depression and self-loathing is the norm, so be a positive contributor to the world, set an example to your children, partners, family, friends or colleagues. Set a good example with this habit for the younger generation – our future.
The eighth secret…
Oh, and my eighth secret, is keep learning. Invest in your own personal development. Find a coach or mentor. I guarantee this is the fastest way to achieve your goals. An even greater benefit of investing in yourself is that you build resilience and a positive focused mindset – future proofing yourself in a turbulent, uncertain and changing world. You probably insure your car, your house and maybe your life against illness or death? But what about insurance against losing your job or coping in a world with massive change and uncertainty? Of course, if you are already ultra-successful, you will already know this.
Happy 2018 and here’s to your success in 2018.
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